I dedicate this post to one of my friends, Matt, because no matter what heartache or pain he goes through he never stops believing that true love exists out there.
This morning as I was procrastinating getting ready I just scrolled around Facebook and looking at people's pictures. I came across this guy's post to his girlfriend for their Anniversary. Super cute you might think, but it was a post that made you tilt your head and wonder why. This couple has been together for so long. Well past 4 years from what I can remember. She had yet to like the post or comment on it and I always found that suspicious. In this day in age, EVERYONE has a smart phone so I figured she received her tagged notification when it occurred yet she did nothing about it.
When I went to her page to creep I saw exactly what I thought I would see. Her page doesn't say that she's in a relationship, much less a 5 year relationship. There aren't many pictures of them on it, just a lot about her career. So why be together for so long if you're not proud of it? I believe that love should be something that you can scream out to people freely and be proud of it. There is no shame in giving someone else your heart nor is there anything to hide. No crime is committed, just love.
So why do it? Why string along a relationship where there is no longer love and just mutual likeness. I took a break to watch Eddie Murphy in Coming to America. I only got like 15 minutes into it when I saw an immediate connection. In the movie, he has to go through an arranged marriage and he argues against it. His father, the king, tells him of his own personal experience and how with time and company you learn to fall in love with that person through kindness. Well could the same thing happen if you stay together for so long and kindness is lacking? Could you fall out of love even if at the start it was an uncontrollable love? I believe so. Then you're stuck in that awkward stage of a relationship where you are two strangers who are together. We don't get out of it because we hate change. It's easier to stick around with the person you fell in love with back in high school that make a bold move to find happiness somewhere else. With all our busy schedules and fast paced careers could we be creating houses with a roommate instead of a life partner?
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