is this love or is this fear?

I believe it comes hand-in-hand. You have to have a perfect balance between both of them. If you love someone, then you also fear that you might lose them. If you fear someone then you will show love and kindness to them in attempts to have them love you. But at one point it gets out of hand if you're not careful. You might just find yourself losing that love and filling it up with fear. Fear of loneliness or just fear of not having them by your side. It's that fear that grows within you while you're driving alone in your car and you think, it might just be like this for the rest of you life. So you might as well start getting used to singing alone because if you lose that one girl, well shoot, there goes your whole life. So fill your heart up with fear and perhaps you'll wake up one day and you're old, as is she, and you'll notice that your fear of her leaving you has become hatred and disgust from her to you. You cannot be respected until you respect yourself and you can't respect yourself if you put your whole happiness on someone else- especially on some other mortal. It's a sad tale and it goes in circles for just about everyone. You can't fear losing someone. You should fear not being in love with the one who's by your side but not losing them. If love is gone then it should end. That lack of love should not be replaced for fear. So be bold and stand up for it! Don't have fear, don't fear anyone but yourself. No one in life ever made it far by fearing others. Fight that inner being in you and love those who surround you. If they hate you, well bless their hearts and move on in your life. Don't fear. Fear crumbles your heart.