In the past two weeks I have found myself in the midst of marriages, proposals, pregnancies and new babies! As excited as I am for all of my friends to have their life in place and finally have found their happily ever after I also feel like I'm romance-handicapped. It's as though I was an all-star back in high school and then after being in a relationship for two years I have lost it. Or maybe I'm just not looking? Whatever it may be I feel as though I am the oddball in this one. I'm more involved in school, adventuring, and my friends. I see girls who are pregnant or already have babies and I want one so bad. Every time I see them and think that in my head, I have to take a step back and realize that as much as I may want a new baby or an adorable toddler I can't even take care of myself at times. I sleep like 3 hours in one night and then drink enough caffeine to keep China awake, I always drive myself into trouble and my open/uncensored mind has managed to get me in some kind of dispute with people constantly. I have finally managed to learn how to cook delicious meals! But other than that I am not prepared for a child. All the girls who I see pregnant now seem to have led the same life as I did right up to their pregnancy. So does that mean that all these girls are now completely changing their lives? Does it mean that they no longer urge to go out to dance all night? What about their boyfriends or husbands? Do they know that those men will be the one for them for the rest of their lives or have they just settled? The average age of a woman when she first gets married is 25 years old in the U.S. In France it's 29 years old and in Sweden it's 30 years old. Are women in France pickier than women in the U.S? Do women in France take their relationships longer until they know they are ready to be in a relationship? Or are women in the U.S. more free-willed and willing to start a family fast? Maybe it's the land of opportunity feel that the U.S gives to everyone where they believe that anything is possible in this land. If you look a little further though the U.S. has a 45.8% divorce rate as of 2010. Whereas France has a 38.1% divorce rate. So maybe just as I am feeling like an outcast in the society that I am in, perhaps every other woman feels the same. Maybe we are all just following a trend that will lead us all to proposals, marriages, babies and unfortunately a divorce in the end. I don't mean to be the debbie downer in the situation but statistics are against us. Until I have found a happily ever after I will continue with my lifestyle and my beliefs in marriage and babies. My closest friends and I have all decided we have to have babies at the same time just so they can grow up together as well. Adorable! If things get out of hand here and babies are popping left and right well then I'll just go live in France. It's always been a dream of mine to travel the world when I'm young and settle down when I'm actually prepared to be a mommy. I would only want the best for my children and I could only do that when I have my life in complete zen.
Au Revoir!
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